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10 September 2007 @ 12:28 am
I just broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years today, and it's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. Damn.  
SpankSpikespankspike on September 10th, 2007 05:37 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry honey. That can be such a difficult decision, but if you've come to it you have to trust that you've done the right thing.

Keep your head up and I'm here if you ever need a shoulder to cry on.
ClawofCat: buffy poutclawofcat on September 11th, 2007 12:10 am (UTC)
Thanks so much. It was on my mind a lot recently, and I think ultimately it is for the best. We're both dedicated to trying and make our friendship work, and I think we can. We were friends many years before we got together, and neither of us have forgotten what that was like.

I am so upset I couldn't get my Wes/Lilah fic done for the clothed challenge at feedmykink. I'll probably still write it though, and post it here at my LJ. I love KofM. School is also sucking up a lot of my time between reading and thesis stuff. Blah.
Holly: here for youhollydb on September 10th, 2007 06:09 am (UTC)
ClawofCat: hollowmeclawofcat on September 11th, 2007 12:06 am (UTC)
Thanks, hun
kitmarlowescot2kitmarlowescot2 on September 10th, 2007 07:30 am (UTC)
I am so sorry.
ClawofCat: scowlclawofcat on September 11th, 2007 12:06 am (UTC)
Thanks. Things are getting a little easier.

Random: It's sort of hard to make out, but what in the world is that on your icon?
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Shapinglightshapinglight on September 10th, 2007 09:02 am (UTC)
Hey, I'm really sorry to hear that.
ClawofCat: crying buffyclawofcat on September 11th, 2007 12:04 am (UTC)
Thanks for the condolences, D. I'm sure your girls have had to go through this at one time or another. They're in college too, right?
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Astridastridaria on September 10th, 2007 09:11 am (UTC)
Sending you loads of hugs and tissues and good thoughts, etc.
Herself_nyc: FNL - Tim poutsherself_nyc on September 10th, 2007 11:27 pm (UTC)
Hey you! You haven't posted in AGES!
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kcarolj65: Friendskcarolj65 on September 10th, 2007 10:11 am (UTC)
So sorry to hear about that. Hang in there - we love you!
ClawofCat: dawntaraclawofcat on September 11th, 2007 12:02 am (UTC)
Thanks, K. I guess it's just all part of growing up. I know a lot of people that are going to have to make the same tough choices. Senior year of college makes or breaks a lot of relationships as people go their separate ways and embark on the real world *sigh* It inevitably sucks.
Athenewolfeathenewolfe on September 10th, 2007 10:39 am (UTC)
I am sorry hun - breakups are always har HUgs you tight
ClawofCat: dawntaraclawofcat on September 11th, 2007 12:01 am (UTC)
Yeah, they are. And it's been a long time since I've been through one. It was never as hard as this though. Sort of blows my mind that I was with him longer than some people are married.
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slaymesoftlyslaymesoftly on September 10th, 2007 10:57 am (UTC)
*hugs you tightly* Been there, done that - and yes, it does. Perhaps for a long time. It does get better, though. I promise.
ClawofCat: I'm sorryclawofcat on September 10th, 2007 11:29 pm (UTC)
I've been grieving for awhile. Been on my mind a lot recently, which was also a source of my recent anxiety. It was probably harder anticipating what his reaction would be and getting up the nerve to do it, rather than just saying the words. Things aren't over for us just yet though. They've just changed, and it will take work, but I think we'll be able to transition.
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Sevvy: Lockedsevvy_o on September 10th, 2007 12:40 pm (UTC)
*hugs* I'm so sorry! Let me know if you need anything -- I can come visit and we can wallow in ice cream and movies/tv.
ClawofCat: buffy smileclawofcat on September 10th, 2007 11:26 pm (UTC)
You should come visit anyway! I have all 7 seasons of Buffy here with me. I might go out to Long Beach this weekend with the gals, too. Maybe we can coordinate something.
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ldyavalonldyavalon on September 10th, 2007 02:07 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry... If you need anything, just mail me *Hugs*
ClawofCat: Dawn sadclawofcat on September 10th, 2007 11:24 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much for the offer. I might take you up on it. I was working a little on the next chap of All Wrong and I think my emotional state came through really strongly in the writing. Most angsty, freaky Spuffy sexy ever. Eesh... Gonna have to let that sit for a bit and edit it.
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ClawofCat: sisters grieveclawofcat on September 10th, 2007 11:21 pm (UTC)
Mraw *snuggles*
Herself_nycherself_nyc on September 10th, 2007 06:16 pm (UTC)
Oh no. I'm so sorry.
ClawofCat: spangelclawofcat on September 10th, 2007 11:21 pm (UTC)
I think I need the love of Traddles and the silly Spangel dolls. Lets get together soon for lunch or brunch.
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darkdreams1222dreamsofspike on September 10th, 2007 06:26 pm (UTC)
awwww :( *huge hugs* that's got to be so hard, love....let me know if there's anything i can do, if you just need to chat...i'm here....
*hugs again*
ClawofCat: tearsclawofcat on September 10th, 2007 11:19 pm (UTC)
Thanks, doll. It was really hard, and it's something I've been mulling over for a long time. It's a complicated situation, and especially hard when it has nothing to do with not loving the person, or thinking they're a shit. Sometimes it's just not the right time anymore, and being with him was hurting me just as much as it made me feel good. We were friends for many years before we dated, and hopefully we can be friends for many years after.
Cordykitten: japewierd  hugscordykitten on September 10th, 2007 06:53 pm (UTC)
* * HUGS * *
ClawofCat: ClawSpikeclawofcat on September 10th, 2007 11:29 pm (UTC)
Thanks, honey.
shawty got flava like a peach lifesaver: tori appleonly_passenger on September 10th, 2007 09:54 pm (UTC)
*open arms*
ClawofCat: sisters grieveclawofcat on September 10th, 2007 11:15 pm (UTC)
*curls up close* Things have been ok though. He took it really well, and was mature about it. Said of course he still wants to be a part of my life, loves me, and that it had been on his mind too, and if I hadn't said something soon he probably would have. There was a little bit of crying, and much holding. It was a relief, and it was the best sort of outcome I could hope for. My friends have also been incredibly awesome and supportive about it, for which I am grateful. We'll talk soon. I am inundated with reading at the 'mo.